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He Lives in me

My father’s gone and I miss him so much. At times I have to remind myself that I will not be seeing him again… I’m sure those of you who have experienced the loss of a loved one can identify with that. Whenever I miss him, through the tears I try to remind myself of the great things about him and how much of him lives in me today. 
Our children are our legacy and a big part of our mission here on earth. I know that when I look at my son I see hope for a better future and brighter tomorrows and I feel deeply happy when I think that I must have represented the same thing to my dad. I know he was always proud of me and in spite of the geographical distance we never failed to tell each other ” I love you”. I’m lucky to have had a wonderful father who stood by me throughout my life, who loved me unconditionally and validated all the choices I made. Some people don’t have a good relationship with their parents, others might have lost their poarents at a young age or might have never even met them. I am indeed blessed to have lived 33 years of my life with my father and have had such a great relationship with him. He used to take such good care of me and I will always be his little girl.
During this tough time our friends and family were there with us in the sadness and in prayer . So many people came to pay their condolences which goes to show how many people my father has affected during his lifetime. His kindness, generosity and love live in me today. I share so many of his values: humanity, equality and non-segregation, friendship, family relations, giving, books, music, ambition and simplicity… He is no longer with us physically but I know that he lives in me. 
I have peace in my heart because I have nothing to regret and somehow I know that this makes the biggest difference. I am no longer sad that my father died in a foreign country because I totally believe that we, as human beings, are naturally creative, resourceful and whole, which is one of the cornerstones of Co-Active Coaching. My father chose to be in Cairo at that time because it was serving his life purpose. I accept it and this leaves no room for “only if’s” and “why’s”. 
My uncle wrote a beautiful elegy in memory of the life my father had and in honour of who he was. A very moving speech that left us all in tears… what a beautiful way to be remembered! 
But we don’t need to wait until it’s our time to go to leave a mark in other people’s lives. This has been an exceptionally long newsletter and I thank you for reading it. Before I go, I would like to ask you a question I always ask my clients: 10 years from now someone is giving a speech about you, what would you want them to say? 
Think about it. Write that speech down and keep it in a place you can always see. This speech will most likely carry your most important values and your biggest achievements. If this is your goal then what can you do to reach it? 
I leave you now with my favourite quotes about Life:
– “Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of 
arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming “WOO HOO what a ride!”
– “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, “I used everything you gave me.” Erma Bombeck
– “Life is not to run away from the storm but to dance in the rain”

May your life be filled with love and light.

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