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Self-Confidence

I was trying to find a subject to write about and thought I would tackle one of the most common issues that clients come to see me about: Self-Confidence.

It’s actually amazing how many people who have so much going on for them, can’t see it because they feel they don’t deserve it. In your field of expertise you could be the most confident person ever but when it comes to other things, like valuing yourself, asking for a raise or simply saying “No” when you need to, your self-confidence disappears.

This stems from a lot of issues and self-limiting beliefs that we grow up with and here’s the most common of all: Our need to be loved from which stems our need to please. If we didn’t have this need, we wouldn’t have cared about what others thought and therefore would have had the confidence to speak of and act on what we believe in.

So here are some tips you can follow to work on your self-confidence and boost it:

  1. Identify your insecurities: What are you insecure about and what’s the root of this insecurity?
  2. Create a support system of family and friends, people who love you and will not care about the mistakes you make. People who know who you truly are and are willing to support you every step of the way. People who witness your growth as a human being.
  3. Don’t give in to your inner-critic. Find the courage to fight your Saboteur, that voice in your head that is constantly criticizing your every move. That nagging voice that wants you to stay in your comfort zone by creating fear in your head that stops you from leaping forward. Your saboteur’s favourite sentences are things like: you’re not good enough! Who do you think you are? You’ll never make it! You failed before and you will fail again.
  4. Identify your strengths and successes. Yes you do have many!
  5. Tap into your passion: it will give you the strength to go after what you want with confidence. If you’re not sure what your passion is or you used to have a passion but don’t seem to be able to connect with it anymore, a life coach can help you find it and reconnect with it.
  6. Be positive. Journaling positive thoughts and achievements can help you stay positive, focused and identify where you need to channel your energy.
  7. Keep an Attitude of Gratitude: always be thankful for what you have and where you are on your journey. Gratitude stems from appreciation and generates enthusiasm and confidence.
  8. Always honour your values: When you stand up for what you believe in and live your life according to your values you will find the confidence to do anything
  9. Be who you want to be from the inside and the outside.
  10. Look in the mirror and smile: Nobody’s perfect but you are the best you can be.
  11. Be happy, you are your best ally
  12. Express yourself: connect with your talents and allow yourself to shine.

Nothing can stop you!

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